Marriage Retreat

[ccwholesale]

Well alot of you guys prayed for us last week so I thought I should fill you in on the retreat. We are not where we need to be but we are much closer. She was very open to the content which was based on the book sacred marriage with the premise that God intended marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy. Based on that premise its ok to have seasons of your life where you aren't necessarily happy with your marriage... They will pass and make the good times in marriage better. Thanks again for all the prayers and supportive IM's

[billius]

Good luck! Hope it all works out for both of you.

[KLAKE]

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Sounds like a good message. Unfortunately so many couple don't understand that ahead of time.

Loving someone isn't based on feeling and emotions. It's based on a decision. Following emotions and feelings is what leads to so many affairs.

I sure hope things work out for you. And keep doing things like this. My wife and I have been doing great and we still do things to remind us to keep at it-Attended a marriage conference this past weekend, watched Fireproof a few weeks back-it's a good movie, but if your heart is truly cold to each other the movie won't do any good. It's better for maintenance.


Keep at it!

[bassassn]

God speed!

[Hair Jig]

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.............. if your heart is truly cold to each other the movie won't do any good. It's better for maintenance.
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Boy ... you just NAILED it with that comment.

Our Pastor delivered a message once about marriage, and although it was actually pretty generic, he did say one thing. He said that in order for men to understand it, you have to put things into "mechanical" terms. He said that marriage is like a car or truck. You can regularly do maintenance on it to keep it operating properly, or you can just take it for granted, ignore it, and hope that you get lucky. Obviously, the ignored ones don't usually make it.

[knowphish]

Oops!!!!! I thought this a thread on how to "back out" of a marriage!!!!

[toddgot5fish]

i truly believe that men NEED respect from their wife , and a wife NEEDS love and affection from their husband. i think this is above all else. but they both must be willing to meet this requirement. if one partner decides to only provide 40% of their commitment , the other cannot balance it by trying to provide 60%. as long as you both have the willingness to make it work its just like the auto illustration , or the bank account.. . .quit making so many withdrawals and start depositing into your marriage. JMHO

[Hair Jig]

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Craig, tell your lovely bride this story: Today is my 19th wedding anniversary. We were talking last night about everything that we had been through in 19 years. Some of it was NOT pretty and doesn't deserve repeating. But we laughed for a long time when we started recalling some of the things that we had argued about over the years. Things that were of utmost importance then (we thought) seemed so stupid today. We had arguments over stuff that didn't even deserve a discussion ... much less a full-blown argument. Marriage is like becoming a child again and having to learn to cope with stuff that you've never dealt with before. You can tackle it and grow stronger as a result, or you can turn your back on it and never progress forward. I always prided myself in the fact that I never backed down from a challenge. And I thought that an argument with my wife was a challenge. In reality, it WAS a challenge ... but not from HER. It was a challenge to learn new ways to compromise and understand that the most important person in my life needed my understanding. Not my response to the "challenge" that she gave.

You guys hang in there. If you sincerely want to stay married, you'll find a way to get through the rough parts and then you can enjoy the other 98% of it.

[m.t.hands]

good deal man will continue

[smalljawguy]

good luck for you and your wife.

[bassman34]

+1

[stratos195]

<table width="90%" cellspacing=0 cellpadding=0 align=center><tr><td>Quote, originally posted by toddgot5fish &raquo;</td></tr><tr><td class="quote">i truly believe that men NEED respect from their wife , and a wife NEEDS love and affection from their husband. </td></tr></table>

There is a book called Love and Respect. It is exactly about men needing respect and women needing love and affection. I am not married yet but I am getting married in June and our preacher tells us this. And we both read the book Love and Respect because he recommended it.

Good luck with your marriage!

[250bassFL]

Best of luck to y'all.

[Wags]

I hope the very best for both of you

[bassfins]

Hang in there guy's......Peaks and valleys....peaks and valleys!!