Roger that. Tried to tell my fishing partner that when he went through a divorce last year. Gave him the name of a local female lawyer with a ruthless reputation in divorce proceedings. He decided to go with "a male attorney who is a friend" to save a buck. Well, guess who his Ex hired? And guess who the male attorney used to be partners with? And guess who got taken to the cleaners. My friend has now paid her off to the tune of half his retirement, half the equity in "his" house which he had paid off before they married (second wife), and he's now returned to work at after retiring just to make ends meet at 63. All for 5 years of a second marriage.
Get a lawyer first. A good, ruthless divorce lawyer who's reputation precedes them. Divorce is usually ugly no matter the circumstances. Protect your assets as best you can.