I have a buddy that was in the same boat about 10 years ago and after tons and tons of research, he decided to buy a Nissan Armada. Not only was it one of the larger SUV's that could haul all of his stuff for the twins as well as tow almost anything, it was rated as the safest SUVs on the road. He drove that thing for 250k miles and loved it so much, recently purchased another one exactly like it, same color even... but newer of course. Look at eBay motors, this is where he found the best deals. Seating for 8, tows 9,000 lbs, has four wheel drive, Bose stereo with 12 speakers, front side curtain airbags, rear and 3rd row seating head airbags... and the list goes on and on. Hard to beat this one.
Here's an example of what I'm talking about.
https://www.ebay.com/itm/2015-Armada...1:pf:0&vxp=mtr