Monday, I started a thread and needed advice--as ususal, BBC folks offered very good advice---http://www.bbcboards.net/showthread.php?t=931870&highlight=
I went to visitiation with wife (found daughter a babysitter), then to the funeral service (at funeral home) then to graveside by myself--i inadvertly showed up as last one to enter---completely my fault-my brother saved me a seat---everything was at good as it could have been--THANKS BBC---