I need advise and what better place then here--right??? I know this is a fishing forum--but I need advise...
My father died Friday evening, my mom (they divorced a longtime ago) came over and told me about it. I have not spoken to him in over 8 years (its complicated) and we agreed to go separate ways--dont go away mad, just go away type thing-my brother (4 years my elder) still talked to him-My brother was instructed by my father NOT TO TELL ME OF HIS DEATH...dont know why,,will remain a mystery..
We had a strong relationship, but things went South when my mother and I began talking again and he would not come and see our daughter on her 2nd birthday because I had my mother over the previous day. I did not want our daughter to be around that type of negative energy, so I asked him that we split ways--he agreed....
Anyway, Im 40+, got a beautiful wife, 10 YO daughter. My daughter does not know my father, i tried to shield her from him. My father has his new family, stepchildren, step grand children etc, etc---we used to all be friendly to each other.
My brother and I are tight, I want to support him, but dont want any drama. I know that sometimes folks that have nothing to do with the deceased suddenly appear--especially when comes to 'will reading time'--
I know I am out of my father's will and have no thoughts otherwise...he is out of mine,,,
I just want to support my brother because I am worried that he is on for a tough legal battle with the 'other side'
they are having service/visitation tonight and service/burial tomorrow----i dont know what to do and how to do it--PLEASE IDEAS!!