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    Checklist for becoming a man

    I ran across this list, published in the 1930’s, about the skills that should be learned to become a proper man. I’d bet that most of us have mastered at least 75%+ of these.



    What a Young Man Should Know, 1933. A checklist for becoming a proper man.


    This was published in the March 1933 issue of Harper’s Magazine.


    The writer, Robert Littell, details the abilities, skills, accomplishments, and extra-curricular proficiencies that every man should have if they are to become a self-sufficient and well-rounded human being, ready for life, and eventually, marriage and raising their own children. The learning starts from a very young age.


    Here is the (short) list:


    1. He should know how to swim at least a mile, dive creditably, and not feel panicky under water. He should be able also to revive those less skilful than himself by rolling them on a barrel and pumping their helpless arms.


    2. He should be able to drive an automobile well. And he should not be altogether helpless when a car breaks down. He must know how to change a tire and offer some sort of diagnosis when the engine sputters and dies.


    3. He ought to know how to clean, load, and shoot a revolver or a rifle.


    4. As for self-defense, a man should certainly be able to take care of himself in a scrap. He need not learn jujitsu — old-fashioned boxing will be enough.


    5. He ought to know the rudiments of camping, how to build a fire, how to chop wood, how to take a cinder out of his eye, how to deal with a severed artery, how to doctor himself for ordinary ailments.


    6. He should also be able to take care of other people in emergencies, to apply first aid, set a broken bone, revive a drunk or a victim of gas, deal with a fainting fit, administer the right emetic or antidote for a case of poisoning.


    7. And he should be able to feed himself, to cook, not only because some day he may need to, but because cooking is one of the fine arts, and a source of infinite pleasure. He should be able to scramble eggs, brew coffee, broil a steak, dress a salad, carve a chicken, and produce, on occasion, one first-class dish, such as onion soup. The more he can do, in these days of the delicatessen store and the kitchenette, the better. It is not effeminate, it is not beyond him, and the best chefs are all men.


    8. He should know how to use paint brushes, a saw, a hammer, and other common tools.


    9. He should also have a beautiful and distinguished handwriting. But the bulk of his writing, particularly if he is a professional man who has much of it to do, should be done on a typewriter, capable of turning out three thousand words an hour.


    10. He should play one outdoor game well, and have a workable smattering of several more. An American who cannot throw and catch a ball seems pathetic and grotesque.


    11. The bicycle has gone, yet every young man should know how to ride one.


    12. He should also be able to skate, sail a boat, and handle a canoe passably.


    13. Fishing is a specialty, like chess.


    14. Walking is a noble but neglected sport. Americans “hike” once in a long while but seldom walk.


    15. He should know a great deal about animals and how to take care of them.


    16. He should know how to ride a horse.


    17. He should learn how to stay in a saddle with pleasure to himself and a minimum of annoyance to his mount.


    18. He should learn how to dance.


    19. He should know to play at least one card game.


    20. He must have knowledge of how to tip naturally, justly, without fear and without reproach.


    21. On the matter of alcohol, he should learn his capacity and stick within its limits; he should know something about the different kinds of drink, and which drinks produce chaos within him when mixed.


    22. Where s:x is concerned, nature clearly intended us to make many mistakes in her hope that some of them would be productive.


    23. He should know the rudiments of gambling. But gambling might be placed on the same plane as drink — the less use one has for it the better.


    24. Higher than almost any other accomplishment on the list is knowing music. There is no reason why any young man who is not absolutely tone-deaf should not learn how to play one musical instrument well enough for it to be a self-resource and a tolerable pleasure to others.


    25. A civilized man should know how to read. The ability to read, or rather the habit of reading, is very rare even among intelligent people, and has to be taught and kept up if it is not to become rusty.


    26. He should have knowledge of at least one foreign language. French or German preferably both. German children learn an amazingly good brand of English without ever crossing their borders. Why can’t we? For one thing, we don’t really want to. Yet we should. An American who knows only English is blind in one eye.


    27. He should know to travel well, efficiently, without fuss or complaint.


    28. A young man should be able to express himself clearly before a crowd of strangers, without shyness, muddle, or a pathetic resort to “so much has been said and well said” or “I did not expect to be called on.”


    29. The British adult can get to his feet, propose a toast, introduce a stranger, voice a civic protest, heckle a windbag politician, and give utterance to an unembarrassed thought.


    30. A a man should command the elementary tool of written language, and be able to put simple things on paper in clear words.


    31. He should have a good workable understanding of the structure of business, investments, and banks.


    32. Let every educated man, as a necessary part of his education, be thrown into the muddy stream of American industry and see what it is like to swim alone on daily wages.


    33. He should before reaching twenty-two have done something because he wanted to, whether other people wanted him to do it or not.


    34. He should not acquire property unless he needs it. Insensitiveness to his personal property, unless of course it is extraordinarily beautiful, is a desirable skill for any man to have; It must be learned and worked at.


    35. Unusual though this young man may be, he should not seem so. Is not a parent’s basic ambition for his child that he be very different from other people, yet manage to seem almost exactly like them?





    What do you think? Doable or unreasonable? And now that you know what is expected of women in the 1930s, is it fair?


    #1930s #1930sstyle #vintagehistory #historylovers #historyfacts #vintageaesthetic #didyouknowfacts #howtobeaman

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    It's a decent list. I think having beautiful, distinguished handwriting and being able to ride a horse are a little outdated though.

    I think one of the big things that's not on that list is the ability to admit your mistakes, apologize, and move in from them.

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    18 might be a problem for me. Can't dance.
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    I ain't painting anything, (even tho I am the facilities manager for a military and aerospace painting contractor), and my handwriting suggests that I should have been a doctor. Beyond that, I think I line up fairly well with the list.
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    Type 3000 words an hour....

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    Modern list

    1-he should know how to work the remote.
    2-he should know how to reheat food in a microwave
    3-he should be able to operate a smart phone without his kids/grandkids doing it for him
    4-he should be able to open his own beer cans
    5-he should know how to cook a frozen pizza

    Anything I missed?

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    Quote Originally Posted by posmallie View Post
    It's a decent list. I think having beautiful, distinguished handwriting and being able to ride a horse are a little outdated though.

    I think one of the big things that's not on that list is the ability to admit your mistakes, apologize, and move in from them.
    I will disagree about learning to ride a horse (although will concede it could be changed to having a pet, 15 seems more farm related). It is about bonding, compassion, caring, responsibility. Being able to ride is just a byproduct.

    25 and 30 (reading (and comprehending) and writing) are exceptionally important, IMO Twitter, text messages, and email has reduced us mentally.

    And I love your addition!

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    I thought I was doing well, but the handwriting is a definite no for me

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    Of those, handwriting and cooking would be my Achillies heal. My handwriting is atrocious and I could survive on my cooking, but would hate for anyone else to have too.

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    Love to cook and can write in cursive but neat, no!
    Never rolled anyone onto a barrel to revive them or wouldn't know where to find a barrel? I do know CPR.
    No foreign language here, maybe a word or two mostly food or the bad ones.
    Dance, hate it, never see any man look good dancing (maybe Michael Jackson) will slow dance with the wife.
    If professionals who's careers depend on catching fish use FFS then that's what I'm using. Might be too simple of a philosophy but makes sense to me.

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    I'm weak in the swimming, horse riding and typing. I can swim and do a lot of snorkeling but I float like a rock.
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    Horse riding, hand writing and foreign language would be my weaknesses. I am not good at dancing but man do I love to cut loose every now and then Been in a few fistfights and probably lost most but they definitely felt it the next day as well.

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    I was down with this list until we got to the part about "revive a victim of gas" hmmmmmmm
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    Yeah the handwriting, typing and music playing are my shortfalls. The rest of the list I’m adequate enough to get by. Some more proficient than others though

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    Quote Originally Posted by Toni View Post
    Modern list

    1-he should know how to work the remote.
    2-he should know how to reheat food in a microwave
    3-he should be able to operate a smart phone without his kids/grandkids doing it for him
    4-he should be able to open his own beer cans
    5-he should know how to cook a frozen pizza

    Anything I missed?
    He should know to buy the good toilet paper instead of the cheap stuff.

    He should know all the ESPN channels by memory.

    He should be able to keep up with his phone, keys, glasses and remote.

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    I no speak English. In my best Spanish voice. I missed a few but have most covered. I once danced beautifully when I stood on a Fire Ant mound!

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    Wow, I must be an MANLY MAN! Without tooting my own horn, I could check off a few of those easily.

    Handwriting, can I yes, but I work in computers so I rarely write anything these days.

    Dancing, that's questionable. It gets better the more drinks I have. AHAHHAHA
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    Quote Originally Posted by Toni View Post
    Modern list

    1-he should know how to work the remote.
    2-he should know how to reheat food in a microwave
    3-he should be able to operate a smart phone without his kids/grandkids doing it for him
    4-he should be able to open his own beer cans
    5-he should know how to cook a frozen pizza

    Anything I missed?
    6-should be able to drive a boat
    7- should know what his pronouns are

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    Quote Originally Posted by Flabasspond View Post
    I was down with this list until we got to the part about "revive a victim of gas" hmmmmmmm
    I had that one covered. Woke my wife up several times at night with some good gas.

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    Not sure I can deal with a severed artery

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